We’re Done, I’m Moving On
I will never forget the day when sitting in a marriage counselor’s office with my husband after months of sessions; he looked at me said ‘You’re finished, aren’t you?’. At that moment all I could do was nod my head and say slowly ‘Yes’.
The moment of making that decision and acknowledging it is the beginning of a new life. So many emotions run through us when we reach that jumping off point. Emotions of relief, happiness, loneliness and lots of fear can course your veins within a few minutes. Fear of what home life is going to be like leading up to a divorce; fear of the divorce process; fear that you won’t be able to make it on your own. For me, I had all that running around my head as I continued to sit in that counseling session. I don’t remember anything of what we talked about; I just wanted to flee.
Afterwards, I got into my car, drove around the corner, parked and cried. Tears of relief streamed down my face from finally making the decision and verbalizing it. I was ready to move on. I knew that I had finally reached a point where the pain of our marriage far outweighed my fear of moving on. I knew that my decision came from an inner strength in myself that had gotten lost over the years in my marriage. I knew I made the right decision for myself and my 4 year old daughter. When my tears subsided, I called a friend and shared the news with her; my relief and my fears.
Here are some suggestions as you move through (and after) the divorce process:
Above all else, take each day as it comes. Don’t worry about tomorrow or next week. Just focus on today and making the next right decision for you.